22 Ways to Improve Your Marriage with Mort Fertel

I just can’t stop singing this man’s praises - of course, his wife deserves a medal as well.  These two blessed people WORK at their marriage.  For them marriage is the ultimate investment.  I have read Mort’s articles, studied his program and I truly believe that this is the answer to all the questions and problems that those of you who believe your marriage is failing, are having.

What have you got to lose?  Try this before you try anything silly….

Unlike other relationship experts who approach the topic from a clinical perspective, for me saving marriages is very personal

My wife and I were deeply in love. I remember staying up all night talking, surprising each other with thoughtful gifts, and speaking to each other in code words. You know the feeling of really being connected? That was us.

But then something happened that destroys most marriages. We had a son who died when he was one week old. And then we had twin daughters, who also died as newborns.

Your situation probably was not so tragic, but something happened. What was it? How did you lose each other? Or maybe you can’t put your finger on why things aren’t right anymore. That’s common too.

For us, after losing 3 children, everything felt different. Instead of talking all night, it was a chore to talk for a few minutes. Instead of using our code words, we used curse words. Our relationship consisted of screaming matches and silent treatments.

Somewhere deep in our heart though, like you, we knew we didn’t want to lose each other. So we made a commitment to work on our marriage. Sometimes I tried and my wife didn’t. Sometimes my wife tried and I didn’t. Sometimes we tried together. We went through different stages of "trying."

What did we try?

We tried the obligatory, "Honey, let me repeat what you said to make sure I understood you correctly." We applied conflict resolution strategies. My wife learned about Mars and I learned about Venus. We even went to counseling to wrestle with our problems. But guess what. Nothing changed. Nothing worked.

Because all the advice we got (books, counselors…whatever) asked us to confront our problems. But that just made us feel worse. And fight more.

As long as the "right" way wasn’t working, why not be dysfunctional? So we tried to convince each other of our way. You tried that too, right? Obviously, that doesn’t work.

Finally, we had a breakthrough.

We decided to SET ASIDE OUR PROBLEMS. We didn’t talk about them at all. We didn’t bring them up even once. Instead, we put our energy into trying to connect. We used certain relationship techniques that transformed our marriage. Not only did we resolve our differences; we fell in love again! And we did it not by dealing with our problems (as serious as they were), but by establishing new relationship habits that brought positive energy to our marriage.

This is the solution to most marital situations—to "step away" from your problems and spend your time and energy building your relationship through positive actions. If you do this RIGHT, your problems will dissipate, the threat of divorce will go away, and the other people invading your marriage will become irrelevant. Slowly but surely you will come closer together again.

Now you’re probably wondering, “How do I stay away from the very problems that plague me? What healthy habits or relationship techniques can bring us closer together? And what if my spouse doesn’t cooperate?” That’s EXACTLY what I’ll teach you. I’ll answer those questions and more so you get the results you want. Let me be more specific. Here’s what you’ll learn when you order Marriage Fitness Home-Flex™: 

1. How to snap out of destructive patterns of behavior
2. How to stop dwelling on the past and start moving forward
3. How to get over old hurt
4. How to restore trust
5. How to deal with a stubborn spouse (“Lone Ranger” track–see below)
6. What to do if your spouse is trying to control you
7. 7 daily acts that will rebuild love in your marriage
8. 5 weekly habits that will soften your marital environment
9. 2 monthly acts that will restore romance between you
10.  How to get your spouse to change
11. How to resolve money conflicts
12. How to fight amicably
13. The 4 primary principles of LASTING love
14. How to survive (and thrive) after an affair
15. How to become a team rather than 2 individuals
16. How to make decisions together
17. How to get YOUR needs met
18. How to connect with an emotionally absent spouse
19. How to keep the small things small
20. How to relieve anger and resentment
21. How to tickle your spouse’s soul
22. How to avoid pointing fingers and reciprocal blame
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